Psychotherapists - Del Mar, CA

"It's not easy to open up to a provider but Ms. Lovinder has a charisma and way about her that truly puts me at ease; when discussing our future visits we always have a plan on what to work on and they always end up helping!"

"My way or the highway...this is Pete's mantra. We heard this about 3 times during our consultation and again during the first part of our first meeting. Prior to our meeting, Pete had us complete about 2 hours' worth of paperwork, much of which was disturbing as it required my wife and myself to dig very deep into the past. My wife broke down crying several times during this process. Within the first 10 minutes of our first meeting, Pete started criticizing my use of Trimix, an ED medication that I am prescribed by a doctor. He claimed my prescribing doctor (several doctors are aware that I use Trimix) was wrong and did not prescribe the medication properly, he would only accept me being on Trimix if I got approval from one specific doctor in San Diego (apparently no other doctors are good enough for Pete). He then went on to tell me that it's a powerful drug and it could cause damage. Pete clearly knows nothing about Trimix. I have been using Trimix for years and, although it is a powerful ED medication, it is extremely safe to use and has little to no side effects when used correctly (other than a long-lasting erection that won't go down if you don't dose correctly). Without Trimix, I have ED. Pete then went on to say that he must have all of the contacts for my doctors (which I self-pay for) but at that point and seeing that he very much lacked knowledge of medications or at least Trimix, I was very hesitant to allow him to speak to my doctors, besides, I have only known this guy for 10 minutes. I explained to him that I would not do that and again, his mantra was 'my way or the highway' or in other words 'if you won't do what I say, I can refer you to someone else'. This guy could be a good therapist but with his cocky, stubborn attitude and dead-set mentality that he is right and I was wrong was a major turn-off and a deal-breaker for us - I simply shut off the zoom meeting at this point. Pete, you might want to self-reflect on some of your methods and policies. Now we are left with having dug up our past for this guy, no therapy unless we succumb to his demands, and now sitting in limbo trying to find a new therapist that might be more understanding to our needs. I would take anything this guy says with a grain of salt and remember; he's a human just like all of us, nothing special and may not always be right. Great job Pete, rock on funny guy!"