Dr. Charles T. McNeil, EDS, LMFT, DMIN

Charlie listened to my husband and I and made numerous helpful observations as well as suggestions to help us resolve some challenges we were having.

We would recommend Charlie to others needing relationship help.

My (now Ex) wife and I went to Charlie for counseling and we put in a considerable amount of time with him.  Our marriage had completely disintegrated because of my ex's horrible behavior.  I understand now that she was a sociopath; an extraordinary one at that and possibly even dangerous .  Looking back at how I described my concerns and issues to Charlie as well as some of the outrageous behavior he observed, he should have been able to spot this for what it was a mile away.  Instead, he chose to view us as just any other couple who had grown apart, as though we simply needed to be nicer to each other.  

The police ended up at my home more than a dozen times, I and others now have restraining orders protecting us from her, and both of our sons have ended their relationship with her.  The outrageous stories of her behavior that was not just bad, not just illegal but truly crazy and preposterous could fill a book.  And we just need to go home and be nicer to each other?  Really?

Charlie seemed to lack any understanding of our situation.  One of my greatest concerns was my wife's pathological lying.  She was even caught in lies during sessions.  Charlie would essentially state the obvious that lying was undesirable behavior, but he completely failed to dig deeper and try to understand why this was such a constant behavior for her.  I'm going to a professional because I need real expertise and meaningful insight; I don't need someone who is going to pass me some generic solutions which is all I got from him.

As I've come to understand, there's no hope that a sociopath will ever understand or better manage their behavior.  I had to end the marriage.  And that's okay, but it should have been Charlie helping me understand what this behavior was so that I could have come to that conclusion earlier and saved years of ongoing agony.    It took going to a different counseler who understood very quickly what my situation was.  Charlie should have been listening harder and observing more and considered the possibility that our situation was so much more than simply two people struggling to get along.  Very disappointed and would never go to him again.