Dr. Benjamin Michael Gesing, PSYD

Ben Gesing was not even my therapist. I was seeing Deborah Metroka for help in a domestic violence situation from a literal psychopath. I referred Karl Ulrich to Dr. Todd Lendvay who figured out Karl's BS in less than 48 hours and Karl went into a rage and dropped him. I was seeing Metroka after choosing suicide as the only way to escape psychopathic abuse. The day of my suicide, Karl sat on speaker phone with his babe casually talking while I listened. The same voice is on a YouTube video by Karl named September 1, 2019, two days home from a vacation I thought was going to save our marriage. Karl did not know that I could hear while unconscious as they formed a plan to cover for why they took so long to call 911 (over an hour based on Karl’s Google history I found later). 

Gesing was my 2nd choice and is apparently either completely oblivious or intentionally sadistic. Karl seemed to have charmed Ben quite easily and convinced Gesing that Karl Ulrich (Jacobs High School, Algonquin, IL CUSD300) is the poor victim of my abuse. (Audio recordings included below). I found evidence Karl joined narcissist and suicide grief support groups on MeetUp and Facebook where he met vulnerable women who fell for his BS. Meanwhile, as women flocked to support Karl, he was destroying me at home with Gesing and Metroka’s help. The worse the abuse Karl dished on me, the more support HE received from women.

Karl had full control of me through isolation and finances. He allowed me no freedom until I finally could not take it anymore and chose suicide as the only financial way to escape his abuse. Of course, mental health incompetence looks at the victim being at fault (See Dr. Jessica Taylor's book Sexy but Psycho where she wrote about my situation) while the abuser, Karl Ulrich was coddled. 

Gesing never met me or talked to me. Metroka, for all her years of counseling is not yet at Psych 101, but apparently Gesing could not figure that out. I was trying to leave Metroka less than a month after seeing her, but Karl would not let me (it is on audio in March recordings). Also on recording is Karl threatening to blow his head off with a gun on 7.6.20 that Gesing/Metroka ignored. I brought it to Carpentersville police who also ignored it, not realizing Karl Ulrich, the con artist was working to get me locked in a psych ward to keep his secrets intact. In audio recordings Karl states “Ben said you are schizophrenic” (Ben never met or talked to me) “you are going to be locked up” throughout the summer of 2020. Karl is a maintenance boy who suddenly was speaking psych language with accuracy. I had no idea Ben was feeding the beast and my attempts to reach out and warn Ben and Deborah were ignored. It was/is crazy making. 

I tried to use ROI's for the four of us to meet (Karl agreed on 7/5/20 recording) but the three of them used the ROI's to meet behind my back to help Karl get guardianship of me because as Ben said in clinical notes, 8.4.20 "Karl’s challenges managing his anger” (note the actual victims needs were ignored in that comment). Ben was going to “talk to Karl about financially supporting the help I needed but “acknowledged finances were limited (because Karl was cheating and Ben had the evidence). Ben stated “Karl cares about me, is worried and INSISTS he is not having affairs” (remember Ben has evidence Karl is lying but ignored it). on 8.27.20 notes state that I needed "reality testing" for "delusions" of Karl's affairs because Karl assured Ben he was not. Ben Gesing had evidence and recordings emailed to him from my Google drive from 7/13/20 to 10/17/20 that he ignored, taking Karl at his word. Metroka had hard copy evidence that she dated 1.13.20 but did not pass on to Gesing. 

Karl had me under such control and surveillance, including Voyeurcams.com (I have documentation and evidence of all of this), and was cheating on me our entire 19 year marriage. Karl soul murdered me. He married me knowing extreme childhood trauma and said we were “soul mates” who would be together forever. I learned that he married me to get at the equity in my home which he promptly used to pay his previous girlfriend whom he was with throughout our marriage. Karl lived on loans and lines of credit, forging my name the entire marriage to finance, at this point 287 women, and it looks like three children with other women, one as early as 2006. We married in 2002. Gesing ignored all of this. I wrote, called, emailed, Ben pleading to talk directly with him because I KNEW he had no clue. Karl and Metroka were apparently talking behind my back the entire time I saw her (Karl revealed this in audio recordings). 

Metroka noted on May 20, 2020  “experienced the worst abuse of any client I have worked with so far…understanding how challenging it has been for her” including sex trafficking revealed to her three months into counseling, but her only goal was that I get a job. I was FRIED from Karl’s abuse that she ENABLED and then Ben added to it. I had no idea that Karl impregnated a side chic before we left for a vacation to save our marriage and by this time, a little girl was born. Karl needed me out of his life and off his insurance which Metroka helped Karl to achieve. Every attempt I made for long term help, Deborah Metroka sabotaged and Ben drove the nail in the coffin placating his abusive client. 

I started having memory issues from Karl screaming at and controlling me from the day after I came home from the hospital. I had no idea that narcissistic abuse causes brain damage until I found Empowered Healing on TikTok. Certainly, Gesing and Metroka are clueless. On January 27, 2020, a month into therapy, I told Metroka it was difficult with Karl’s abuse and flooding of childhood memories to start over – nothing, crickets. She and Ben are CLUELESS about 101 for CPTSD 1) Safety 2) Stability 3) Memory work 4) recovery/restoration. Metroka’s only focus was that I get a job. I swear to God Metroka and Gesing were working WITH AND FOR KARL, enabling him and destroying me ON PURPOSE. I sent clinical notes all over the world and clinicians and people are incredulous as they read them. They said, write a book (I am on page 84 of the book and barely scratched the surface of what people have helped me uncover including 15 APA Ethics Violations, HIPPA violations, and Federal laws broken! 

I am 17 classes from my masters degree in psychology, an accelerated program with a 3.95 GPA and IQ of 131. I was having memory issues and was so stressed out from being screamed at EVERY.SINGLE.DAY I had to take a medical leave from school. Then the gaslighting of Karl telling me he was not cheating. Add on gaslighting by Gesing and Metroka who were paid to help me, but coddled Karl the toddler abuser destroying the little that was left in me. Karl was cheating with the married principal, Barb Valle, at Jacobs High School (among others) with Steve Budnick his boss covering for both of them, costing taxpayers $181K plus for me to get help to get back on my feet. 

I am currently homeless, penniless, and received NO HELP for CPTSD. I am living in a place off grid thanks to strangers on Facebook until I can figure out how to start life over at 60 years old with nothing from nothing with severe CPTSD/DID and memory issues with no source of mental health help while internet archives show Karl to be a millionaire. Karl did not even have the decency to leave me just the equity in our home that was perpetually under repairs while he worked on others houses in CUSD300 and received employee of the year while abusing me. Incredulous that Gesing and Metroka helped Karl in his efforts to destroy me. 

Karl’s abuse was so severe that childhood memories and flashbacks flooded in and Metroka was a dunce to recognize and help me. Gesing added fuel to the fire. As I write this near two years later, help never came from any professional. Karl got away with soul murder. I am dead inside. Read this blog post. This is my story including incompetence of Gesing and Metroka who I believe destroyed me on purpose. https://www.narcissistproblems.com/search/label/Soul%20Murder. I never received the help I needed. I have a diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder from 5 separate sources but never received SUPPORT from my HUSBAND, from mental health “professionals” including Metroka and Gesing.

The book is called Dirty Therapists being written by Karen Ulrich. Stay tuned and stay away from Ben Gesing and Deborah Metroka. They could not treat a mental hang nail if their life depended on it. 

Documentation of Abuse by Karl Ulrich
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1ZOHndghAPok7FMoarOnEH6TWwhuctK3W?usp=sharing

Audio Recording of Abuse by Karl Ulrich 
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Zp3AqQGQ41VZ-rC9TnURC87vJG1bvYc4?usp=sharing    

Dirty Therapists – profit from guardianship of Domestic Violence Victims and DARVO abusers
DEBORAH METROKA MA LCPC |  Metroka Counseling | license #180066344 
1301 Pyott Rd Ste 102, Lake in the Hills IL 60156 
847.658.6684 | Deborah@metrokacounseling.org | https://www.metrokacounseling.com/

DR BEN GESING, PsyD |  Livingrite Center For Behavioral Health Algonquin IL | license #071008934
2100 N. Huntington Drive, Algonquin, IL 60102 
815.317.4213 | ben.gesing@livingrite.org | https://livingrite.org/