Dr. Raymond M. Biersbach, PH.D.

My (now Ex) wife and I went to Ray for counseling and we put in a considerable amount of time with him.  Our marriage had completely disintegrated because of my ex's horrible behavior.  I understand now that she was a sociopath; an extraordinary one at that and possibly even a dangerous .  Looking back at how I described my concerns and issues to Ray, he should have been able to spot this for what it was a mile away.  Instead, he chose to view us as just any old couple who had grown apart, as though we simply needed better communication skills.  

The police ended up at my home more than a dozen times, I and others now have restraining orders protecting us from her, and both of our sons have ended their relationship with her.  The outrageous stories of her behavior that was not just bad, not just illegal but truly crazy and preposterous could fill a book.  And we need better communication skills?  Really?

Through all the sessions we spent with Ray, I felt like he gave us text book approaches without understanding the true nature of our problems.  I'm going to a professional because I need real expertise and meaningful insight; I don't need someone who is going to pass me some generic communication exercises that he copied out of a text book to go home and practice (this is exactly what he did)

As I've come to understand, there's no hope that a sociopath will ever understand or better manage their behavior.  I had to end the marriage.  And that's okay, but it should have been Ray helping me understand what this behavior was so that I could have come to that conclusion earlier and saved years of ongoing agony.  It took going to a different counseler who understood very quickly what my situation was.  Ray should have been listening harder and observing more and considered the possibility that our situation was so much more than simply growing apart.