Madison Sellers, MA, LCMHCA

During an EMDR therapy session, patients are encouraged to access upsetting memories and to reprocess them. Reprocessing is achieved by repeated and rapid bilateral (side to side) eye movements, tapping one's chest and face, and auditory and visual stimulation. These techniques can desensitize patients to their traumatic memory. By reframing how a patient interprets a memory, EMDR is believed to weaken the fight-or-flight response and to rebalance the nervous system. For patients with PTSD, EMDR can treat recurring flashbacks and triggers by reducing the hyperarousal response and promoting emotional regulation.

EMDR patients are first asked to identify a specific memory to reprocess, called the ?target event.? Patients can discuss their feelings, sensations, and beliefs about the event, and may share a picture or use descriptive imagery. Therapists usually employ a set of measurements called the Subjective Units of Disturbance (SUD) scale to assess the patient's distress. Later on, therapists and patients may compare the patient's initial SUD score to their score following an EMDR session. Unlike other forms of therapy, EMDR patients are not prompted to analyze and reflect on details of their traumatic memory at length.

With a target event having been selected, therapists may begin the desensitization process. They instruct patients to perform eye movements, body taps, or sounds while capturing the target event in their mind. These techniques are called dual attention bilateral stimulation (BLS) and can help a patient feel calm and aware, while simultaneously invoking the brain's processing system. Patients may continue these techniques until their SUD distress level has decreased. Patients are then asked to derive a positive thought or affirmation about the target event, and to repeat or strengthen it until it feels sincere. A final ''body scan'' is where patients focus on both the target event and positive cognition to evaluate their physical response and identify any remaining distress. If the traumatic incident is not fully processed in one session, patients are asked to contain the memory and to avoid returning to it until their next EMDR session.

EMDR may greatly improve quality of life in people who suffer from latent trauma and adverse life experiences. EMDR may also be effective for those whose prior experience with talk therapy was unsuccessful.

Each family member can be affected by an issue in an individual and unique way, typically depending on age, maturity, and involvement. This means that family issues are often inequitable, with one or more family members bearing a disproportionate weight of the problem. A frequent example is parental divorce. While both parents may appreciate the immediate relief, divorce can rapidly threaten a developing child's sense of stability and self-confidence. Similarly, a mother who is subject to domestic abuse may conceal the issue in order to shield her children from her distress. In some cases, family issues are generational; a father may cause residual guilt or disagreements from his childhood to carry forward to his own son. While each family's experience is unique, common family issues can include:

• Financial disputes
• Divorce and separation
• Abuse and violence
• Narcissistic caretaker(s)
• Death
• Infidelity and relationship issues
• Sibling rivalry
• Religious and cultural conflicts
• Lifestyle disagreements
• Severe physical illness
• Mental health issues
• Neglect
• Retirement and older adulthood
• Unsafe or unstable household environment

Some family issues are inevitable – such as retirement and minor lifestyle disagreements – while others can be unexpected and dramatic. Unsafe household environments, abuse, and neglect can lead to severe trauma and intervention by social services or law enforcement.

Most common family issues can be addressed through therapy with one or more family members. Family therapy involves sessions led by a licensed mental health therapist. These sessions often include family discussion, resolution strategies, and other activities to promote family harmony. Another form of treatment for family issues is couples counseling, in which a couples counselor can help spouses communicate and employ problem-solving techniques to improve the strength of their relationship. For children, specialized child therapy can help children and adolescents manage and overcome family issues with age-appropriate methods.

Some people find individual therapy or counseling beneficial in resolving family issues, especially for those who are unable to attend family therapy with other family members. Therapists may encourage the creation of family boundaries. At an extreme, therapy may cause an adult to come to the conclusion that communication with a narcissistic parent must stop in order to preserve mental health and wellbeing.